A Mothers Love

She became a Mother when she gave birth to a girlcompletely spoiled by this woman.
child in a British Military Hospital in post war Germany.When I was sad after a wonderful man in my life died
When she arrived at the front steps of the hospitalin 1998, Mom walked beside me every step of the
with her husband in tow, the very efficient Britishway. She would give me flowers for no reason, would
Matron met them and crisply announced in her clippedsuggest we go out for supper "as a wee treat". She
English accent - "You may dismiss your husband nowwas always there with soothing words, hugs and
please."support. She put up with my moods, my tears, my
Then, because the Military Hospital was not set up fordrama and my self centered pity parties. When I was
Obstetrics, the soon-to-be new Mom was whisked offunable to love or even like myself, she was there for
to a cell-like room and left to endure the remainder ofme.
her labour, alone. Every now and then a nurse wouldSometimes, I'd mysteriously find $10 or $20 in my
pop in to see how things were going. A few hourspurse or coat pocket. I'd ask her if she had done this
later, a girl child was born weighing 6 lbs 11 oz. That girland she'd respond with a look of feigned surprise and
child was me.innocence and say "my goodness, no dear!" She
The wonderful wee Irish woman who is my Mom is anknows how to be helpful and still allow me to keep my
amazing person. At the age of 12 she lost her Dadpride intact. She takes being thoughtful to a whole new
and the following year during a bombing raid, herlevel.
family's home in Belfast, Northern Ireland was reducedMom and I have the type of relationship where eye
to rubble. Showing the courage and fortitude that wascontact is all that is needed and we know what the
to be her trademark for the rest of her life, sheother is thinking. This can be dangerous as we have
became the family's strength. She worked during thethe same quirky sense of humour. There have been
day and went to school at night. She made suretimes when our eyes have met in a social situation and
everything was taken care of. She's been doing thatwe both have had to stifle the laughter that is begging
with everyone she loves ever since.to be released.
I moved back to B.C. after my marriage ended, thinkingI thank Mom as much as I can for the joy, the love, the
I'd be a support to my dear Mom. Little did I know thatkindness, the thoughtfulness, the warmth, the
the tables would turn and it would be Mom who wouldacceptance, the treats, the truth, the hugs, the caring,
be my rock.the food, the worrying, the nursing, the wisdom, the
When I had a challenging time finding work and beganhelpfulness, the doggy daycare, the advice, the humour
to feel like I was not worthy, my Mom was thereand for being her wonderful giving self. She is the
cheering me on. "They think you are over qualified.epitome of kindness and love.
Well, it's their loss." would be her comment.As both my best friend and my Mom, she has taught
When I moved to a polluted little town to sell a tackyme the true meaning of unconditional love and her love
housing project and then left because I couldn't breathehas sustained me on many occasions. Words cannot
the air, Mom said "Well, it wasn't good for you anyway.adequately express the gratitude and the love I feel
You're better off away from there".for her.
When I've been too sick to go to work, homemadeThere is a saying that we do not get to choose our
chicken soup, ginger ale and other food magicallyparents. I feel so blessed, because I got that special
appears on my doorstep. Mom looks after my poochone in a million.
(doggy daycare) while I work. I am totally and